LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIP BEGIN

I''ve face these last time and this time i have to face it once again. but it just for a month and i hope it really for a month! apa apa pun. dalam sebulan tu anything can happen kan? so once again teha have to seacrh something upon this problems. so let se some tips for a long distance relationship :')

1.Do things together. Defy the distance. As a long distance couple, it's important to do other things together besides the usual phone call. In a long distance relationship, interaction over the phone can become dull in the long run. Incorporating other forms of interaction are important. Just think... People in short-distance relationships do not spend the majority of their time talking, but rather doing things with each other. Try to replicate this by finding things to do together such as watching a TV show or movie simultaneously

2.Consider using Skype video chat calls every day or as often as possible, text messaging, phone calls and email every day. It is important to maintain contact and to be in each others daily lives as much as possible.

3.Communicate in some way every day, more than once if possible. Since you won't be seeing each other, it's important to establish and maintain an emotional connection. These don't always have to be long, in-depth conversations. Tell each other about your little triumphs and tragedies. Ask on for advice. Use an instant messenger program or VoIP for real-time chat, or web cams for that visual connection. E-mail is great so make sure you use it, especially if long-distance phone calls put a strain on your budget. Ensure the e-mails are substantive and detailed, it will show that you care enough to put in the time and effort. Write love letters. Send small gifts, cards, or send flowers for no reason. In this case, quantity is as important as quality. You may discover an advantage over others whose partner is close at hand—you don't take communication for granted

4.Take advantage of the benefits a long distance relationship offers: more time with friends and/or family, no arguments over toothpaste caps, the pleasure of seeing your sweetheart again after a long absence, time to mull your options (rather than snapping at your partner impulsively) before you respond to that email s/he wrote that seemed so rude the first time you read it, not being dragged into a bunch of chick flicks, etc. Most important, being far apart gives you a chance to maintain your individuality—something that can get lost in the shuffle when couples spend all their free time together. Here are additionalbenefits of long distance relationships.

5.Pursue common interests, even if it means pursuing them apart. If there's a movie you're both interested in seeing, watch it individually and then call each other afterward and talk about it. Read a certain book at the same time. Stargaze while you're on the phone. Set your watches to go off at the same time every day, and synchronize your alarm with that of your partner. Make it a point to think of each other when your watch goes off, and revel in the fact that he or she is thinking about you, too. Find creative ways to bond.

6.Avoid the temptation to be controlling. People have free will and no one can or should control another person. As long as you are both interested in being in the relationship, you will stick with it and distance will not make a difference. As soon as one of you decides the other is not a good match—or someone else is a better match—your relationship ends, whether you live 3000 miles apart, two streets over, or share the same bed with your wedding picture on the wall. You are going to have to trust each other completely if this relationship is going to work.

7.Try challenging each other. This is not the same as being controlling. You may find that you can do things for each other that you couldn't quite find the motivation to do on your own. Perhaps you could motivate yourselves to get some exercise or to cook better or more often. It will give you something to do while you wait to see your partner again, and it will give you both something to strive for and talk about until then.

8.Talk about your future together. Assuming that ultimately you'd want to live together, discussing how you're going to get to that point will help you prove to each other that the relationship is going somewhere and that your efforts and frustrations are not in vain.

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Avoid jealousy and be trusting. One of the easiest ways to destroy a perfectly healthy relationship is to poison it with jealousy and drama. When you start a long distance relationship, you must be realistic of the difficulties ahead. It always helps if you go in a relationship with the idea that everyone is innocent and worthy of trust until proven otherwise. Don't fall in the trap of interrogating your partner every time he/she decides to go out for a drink with people you haven't met or he/she didn't get back to you right away when you called and left a message. Just because you are in a long-distance relationship doesn't mean your lives will pause. Your partner will naturally have a social life where he/she lives and so should you. Sure, it helps to have your eyes open and not be totally naive, but being overly suspicious is unhealthy for you and your relationship too. You should both maintain your social activity and be happy with yourselves.

10.Be positive. Staying positive and not focusing on the negative aspects of a long-distance relationship is essential to keeping your relationship blooming and your partner content. Being away from your sweetie is not all bad news. Use the opportunity of personal time to pursue your interests and hobbies as well as your career objectives. Another positive point is that long distance dating pushes both of you to be more creative, to communicate better since you don't have "face-to-face" time and to test (and express) your feelings. As long as you see the long-distance relationship as a temporary state, you will keep your chin up and transmit that feeling of security and happiness to your partner too.

11.Give them a personal object of yours so in a time of need, when they miss you, they are able to hold on to something that once belonged to you. This will provide comfort, happiness, and the thought of being with you.

12.Remember that you're still in a relationship. You HAVE to be there for your partner. If your partner is ever in trouble, or hurt, or whatever, you have to be there for them.Make sure you are available to them so that they can reach you if they need you. If they end up dealing with everything alone, they will eventually not need you. And sometimes, distance permitting of course, that means being actually, physically there for them.

13.Because time together is rare, when you do see each other, take as much advantage as possible of your ability to get intimate with each other. You don't have that privilege during those stretches when you can’t be with each other physically. You’ve got to keep those feelings of excitement and attraction alive or they will wane in time.

KBYEEEE! hoho

tiap tiap kali mak call, mesti nak nangis je rasa. kenapa? entahlah. tak sabar rasanya nak balik rumah and lapangkan fikiran yang dah terlalu kusut ni. 

mak : teha buat apa? dah belajar?

teha : dah mak. teha nak balik rumah.

mak : kenapa? mak dah cakap jgn fikir apa apa nak periksa kan. berapa kali mak pesan.

teha : *blum ckp ap ap mak mcam tahu je aku kenapa.

mak : dah dah kau tak payah nak bukan bukan. belajar untuk periksa je. ok?

teha : ok. 

see, why teha tak cakap banyak sebab dia takut bila dia cakap banyak banyak air mata dia jatuh. lagi lama dia cakap lagi senang lah dia nak nangis. so sorry mak bukan tak nak cakap tapiiiii. hmmm :(

pening kepala bercampur dengan air mata alahaiii sedap sungguh minum petang aku hari ni. kau ada takde kan? aku ada! and dah selalu rasa makanan petang macam ni. 

bila stress out macam ni orang yang patut buat kita ketawa pulak tak ada dengan kita. nak ajak ayu gelak gelak tak boleh sebab dia pun tengah study for law. nak ajak roomate gelak gelak. hmm lagi lah :( lepas apa yang jadi semua jadi kekok. and i dont know why. memang lah dah lepas kan. buttt things to change needs a time. so mohon pada takau je mintak dia gelakkan aku yang dah 2 3 hari tak gelak ni. sigh.. 

tengok pulak cerita ADAM DAN HAWA tu wahhh bertambah sadis hari aku dibuatnya. hawa tu begoh boleh tahan. kalau aku jadi die. kahwin aje dengan aaron tu! kau ingt sng ke nak kahwin free dgn aaron? apelah! lepastu nak memberontak macam apa. tapi kekadang takut jugak kalau benda tu jadi kat kita sendiri. "TANGKAP KHALWAT DIRUMAH SENDIRI" ya ALLAH! selisih! dahlah benda tu kita tk buat pun tapi still tok imam tok kadi tok bilal segala tok yg dtg tu takkan percaya. yang lebih malunya mesti pihak perempuan. ohmaigahh! cuba benda ni jadi kat aku kat korang? mana lah nak letak muka weh. harap dapat dielakkan!

lepastu pulak kena kahwin time tu jugak! erghh tak nak tak nak! even free aku tak nak! *unless kalau dgn aaron KAHKAH! okay mimpi ~ 

tambah lagi sadis, si takau ni dah sampai segamat tapi bus tak mau masuk kampus. dah kena tunggu bus kuning kat terminal. pulak bus kuning tak ada. lagi lama lah dia kena tunggu. kejung lagi lah aku kat bilik ni. hmm and tak dapat teman dia kat terminal. ni semua tension headache punya pasal! begoh begoh! hmph! >< sorry lee min ho :'( so awak cepat cepatlah sampai kampus b :'( 

banyak kan cerita? ni semua 3 in 1 yang aku tengah buat skrg. ingat coffee je ada 3 in 1 ? story pun ada okayh! kbye 

hai part 5!

part 5? amende tu? oh haah tak lama lagi teha dah part 5. eh dah ke? bukan sepatutnya part 6 ? eh tu lagi melampau dok. hahaha supposely dh part six sebenarnya! daripada mdab lagi kat segamat ni kot. hohor.

well, semalam classmate dah post jadual untuk next sem , haihh bertambah lah stress aku -__- tapi lambat laun akan tahu jugakkan. so this is it guys! 

DEC 2012- APR 2013

BTW! result keluar SEMBILAN HARI BULAN SEBELAS DUA RIBU DUA BELAS ye anak anak! HOHO. first thng first next sem boleh sambut new year with LEE MIN HO saya! wuwohhh boleh ke? boleh tak takau? boleh lah boleh lah! yesss! HAHAHAAH And then my intersesion pulak sebulan dalam masa cuti tu. eh mana best! lepastu cuti sem cuma seminggu. en yang tu lagi tak best! hmmm tulah teha padan muka kau. carry paper lagi eh.dah elok elok tak pernah carry paper kau bolh pulak ada carry eh last sem. padan muka! so this sem hopefully tak adalah carry paper lagi so boleh cover paper last sem so no intersession so i can enjoy my 3 months holidays! haha banyak nye so kau. 

dah enough. tak nak carry paper tapi kau sebuk ngupdate . trololo bye!

TENSION HEADACHE!

YESSS! bila semua orang tengah busy study law and law and law and terus dengan law. aku pulak sibuk melayan kepala yang terus menerus pening dan pening. why? dulu tak macam ni tapi sekarang pening tu menjadi jadi. kenapa tah. so aku tak tahan. and after rehat tadi aku terus bangun and terus bukak lappy untuk seacrh whats wrong dengan aku. after making two three research aku dapati aku tengah behadapan dengan TENSION HEADACHE! ohhh ape tu tension headache? sejenis makanan yang pahit yang kau terpaksa kunyah hari hari eventhough kau tak nak pun makan menatang tu! Hoho okay tak lawak. 

okay tension headache ni daily headache yang certain people akan dapat sebab terlalu stress. but normally people akn dpt headache ni dlm mse 15 hr dalam sebulan. tapi aku! dah kire chronic part sebab aku dapt headache ni DAILY OKAY DAILY! hmmm emak :'( tension headache ni pulak kita akan dapat in the middle of the day. bila kita tak selesa dgn surrounding ke hapeh haaa mula lah kepala kita akan senoneng and last last tumbang hohor.

macam mana headache ni serang kita? daripada mana kearah mana? daripada sini situ sana!

"The "severity" of a tension headache increases significantly with its frequency. Chronic tension headaches come and go over a prolonged period of time. The pain is usually throbbing and affects the front, top, or sides of the head. Although the pain may vary in intensity throughout the day, the pain is almost always present. Chronic tension headaches do not affect vision, balance, or strength."

haa macam tulah dia serang kita. nampak kan? nampak kan? macam tu jugak lah aku rasa hari hari! hmmm :(

okay now macam pulak kita boleh dapat tension headache ni? apa sebab nya kita boleh dapat headache ni? daripada sini pulak! 

This muscle tension may be caused by:

• Inadequate rest
• Poor posture
• Emotional or mental stress, including depression
• Anxiety
• Fatigue
• Hunger
• Overexertion

In others, tightened muscles are not part of tension headaches, and the cause is unknown. Tension headaches are usually triggered by some type of environmental or internal stress. The most common sources of stressinclude family, social relationships, friends, work, and school. Examples of stressors include:

• Having problems at home/difficult family life
• Having a new child
• Having no close friends
• Returning to school or training; preparing for tests or exams
• Going on a vacation
• Starting a new job
• Losing a job
• Being overweight
• Deadlines at work
• Competing in sports or other activities
• Being a perfectionist
• Not getting enough sleep
• Being over-extended (involved in too many activities/organizations)

Episodic tension headaches are usually triggered by an isolated stressful situation or a build-up of stress. Daily stress can lead to chronic tension headaches.

seeeeeee! tulah dia datangnya headache. so whats my point part of getting these kind of headache? 

yessssssssssssssssssssss! 

im stress !

THANKYOU!

Women's problems!

homaigahhh.

tak boleh ke hidup tanpa masalah?

hmmm :(

im tired!

HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP

most people have a thought that a beginning in relationship is all about joy fun exciting and bla bla bla and problems only occurs in the middle of the month. but says who we cannot have a good and healthy relationship? simple minded person does! hoho. okay let just sharing something yahh. :') 

#to the beginner who just fall's to a relationship what you need to do is 

1.BUILD! Build a foundation of appreciation and respect. Focus on all the considerate things your partner says and does. Happy couples make a point of noticing even small opportunities to say "thank you" to their partner, rather than focusing on mistakes their partner has made.

- for my relay im happy, i've enjoy it and i'll try to get rid of mistakes and problems with him :')

2.Explore. Explore each other's interests so that you have a long list of things to enjoy together. Try new things together to expand mutual interests.

- we do have a same interest which is we love koreans things, so theres no much different maybe someday we'll explore new things but for now memasing busy tkde masa. kahkah!

3.Establish. Establish a pattern of apologizing if you make a mistake or hurt your partner's feelings. Saying "I'm sorry" may be hard in the moment, but it goes a long way towards healing a rift in a relationship. Your partner will trust you more if he or she knows that you will take responsibility for your words and actions.

- even simple mistake pun memang kitorang suka minta maaf so that wont be a problems, sebb kalau sesiapa pun buat masalah mstilah "maaf" yg dikatakan dulu. huhu kankan?

#what to do when there is a crises arise? woooo :O

1.Timing Counts. Contrary to previous notions, the best time to resolve a conflict may not be immediately. It is not unusual for one or both partners to need some time to cool off. Remember - if you are angry with your partner but don't know what you want yet, it will be nearly impossible for your partner to figure it out!

- Yeppp! cari masa itu penting sgt penting! thats why teha bila marah dia suka senyap. haha 

2.Agree to Disagree and Move On. Most couples will encounter some issues upon which they will never completely agree. Rather than continuing a cycle of repeated fights, agree to disagree and negotiate a compromise or find a way to work around the issue.

- dulu aku suka disagree untk smbung relation sebab aku tak suka masalah. and aku thu bila dh dtg 1 mslh tu mesti dia akan ulang bnyk kali. tapi time pass by kite patut jd pebih matang. thats why skrg bila ada mslh aku lebih prefer diam dr bising tepekik telolong hoho.

3.Discuss One Thing at a Time. It can be tempting to list your concerns or grievances, but doing so will likely prolong an argument. Do your best to keep the focus on resolving one concern at a time.

- diam diam jugakkan. but yes! berbincang tu penting sgt penting! and takau yg always ajak berbincang and aku sgt beruntung dpt dia sebab dia tak macam ex aku yg lain. be with him teach me how to be more maturd in relation. thankyou b :)

4.Really Listen. Being a good listener requires the following: (a) don't interrupt, (b) focus on what your partner is saying rather than on formulating your own response, and (c) check out what you heard your partner say. You might start this process with: "I think you are saying..." Or "what I understood you to say was..." This step alone can prevent misunderstandings that might otherwise develop into a fight.

- well, yes im not a good listener tapi from the time i learn to be a listener first. cuma yang hr tu aku geram sgt dgn takau smpi kan tk nk dgr apa dia cakap. main blah je. tp insyaallah lepas ni i'll try to be a listener first :')

5.Adopt a "Win-Win" Position. A "win-win" stance means that your goal is for the relationship, rather than for either partner, to "win" in a conflict situation. Ask yourself: "Is what I am about to say (or do) going to increase or decrease the odds that we'll work this problem out?"

-wuwohhhh! :O yg ni 100% teha punya perangai! nak menang je kerja. semua pakwe aku ckp mcm tu. hoho nk buat mcm mana. bukan nk menang tp cume bila kte like agressively nk kan kebenaran semua org pk kite nk mng. but NO! NO! NO! okay will reduce this point upon takau. huks! :/

#healthy and problematics in relationhsip

1.Respect Changes. What you want from a relationship in the early months of dating may be quite different from what you want after you have been together for some time. Anticipate that both you and your partner will change over time. Feelings of love and passion change with time, as well. Respecting and valuing these changes is healthy. Love literally changes brain chemistry for the first months of a relationship. For both physiological and emotional reasons, an established relationship will have a more complex and often richer type of passion than a new relationship.

- Bg peluang tu penting. well tak semua org yg pernh buat kesilapan akan ulang bnde yg sme dkt next psgan dia kan. change attitude for better relay is important. takau need change so do i. hopefully this changing is for REAL eh takau! grrr ><

2.Accept Differences. It is difficult, but healthy, to accept that there are some things about our partners that will not change over time, no matter how much we want them to. Unfortunately, there is often an expectation that our partner will change only in the ways we want. We may also hold the unrealistic expectation that our partner will never change from the way he or she is now.

- stiap relay mesti kene ada perbezaan kalau semua bnde sama je. tak best lah kan. and psgn kita tu pulak kene lah trima perbezaan yg ada and hopefully takau will do the same. hewhew :s

3.Express Wants and Needs. While it is easy to assume that your partner knows your wants and needs, this is often not the case and can be the source of much stress in relationships. A healthier approach is to directly express our needs and wishes to our partner.

- errrr, tak sure pulak benda ni ada bincang ke tak dgn takau. hahaha kalau takde hoi b! nanti kene bincang ni penting ni sbrnya! hoho. kalau ada bincang psl bnde ni boleh jugak get rid of certain problems kan kan kan? :D

4.Respect Your Partner's Rights. In healthy relationships, there is respect for each partner's right to have her/his own feelings, friends, activities, and opinions. It is unrealistic to expect or demand that that he or she have the same priorities, goals, and interests as you.

- yaaa takkan nk 24 jam gan bf kan. so couple couple lah life sendiri mesti jalan macam biasa. haha tapi takau tu over sgt! eishhhh b, i tak halang you berkawan. tapi tapi pleasee kurangkan sikit chracter sweet mweet awak tu dgn gegel lain. itew jealous! >< hohor

okay dah cukup! cukup tak? ke nak lagi? nak lagi pandai pndai kau lah cri. heee ni just sharing dr info yang ada and bandingkan dgn apa yg aku ada skrg. well teha need a lot to change. HAR HAR HAR! takau pun sama je ><

tengah tengah update. yayang itew message cakap rindu. atototo lagi semangat nak menaip. hehe

AHMAD RIDZUAN! cepatcepatlah balik. because i'm craving for your hug and laugh b! like seriously :'(

kbye people! much love, tiehaghazalyy